Dear Single Lady,

Welcome to 2021. With the covid-19 pandemic that shook the whole world and claimed many lives in 2020, it is such a privilege to be alive to see 2021. 2020 showed us that death is not a respecter of gender, marital status, age, socio-economic status, or religion. We’ve seen how fleeting life can be so it’s imperative, now more than ever, that you live NOW and not postpone living until after you fulfill your desire to be married. Time and tide wait for no man and you can’t continue to postpone those dreams of yours until after…


“I don’t know if anyone has ever told you this but you are full of yourself, you are full of shit. GTFOH”

I read the message above in a WhatsApp chat with my friend, Yetunde, and was quite taken aback by the venom in her words. I had no idea what GTFOH meant so I googled it and was shocked some more. I read through our previous conversation as I did not understand how anything I wrote could have elicited such a vile response. So as not to escalate the matter as I was certain I wasn’t responsible for her…


I am going to work

This statement was often my parents’ parting words to me as they left the house each morning on weekdays. Work was where adults went during the week while school was where kids went. Work was what you did as an adult that paid your bills, and gave you perks like our apartment in a Government Residential Area thanks to my dad’s job as a civil servant, and our membership at Apapa club and our use of an elite hospital thanks to my mum’s job as a banker. Work determined the quality of your lifestyle, the…


Dr. Obembe

My Amazing Dr. Obembe!

I saw a few psychiatrists (Doctors for mental health disorders henceforth written as Doctors) for my depression both in the US and in Nigeria but none of them IMO was invested in my being well. In fact, the first Doctor to hospitalize me in Nigeria was just out to extort my parents as he kept changing the agreed-on fees every other day. I hated being in his hospital and my parents obliged me and took me away from his hospital when I told them I wanted to leave.

The first time I met my current Doctor…


Me on vacation in Accra Ghana at my heaviest — 92 kg

‘Destination addiction’ is used to describe the belief that happiness is in the destination or can be found somewhere else rather than in the present.

I attended ISL in the first term of junior high school but I didn’t particularly have a great time there. I had very few friends, wasn’t very social or involved in extracurricular activities, and my time there was far from memorable. When my dad came home one day and said I was transferring to F.G.G.C Shagamu in the second term, I was excited. In my mind, ISL was a better school than Shagamu, and attending…


I have shared details about my life from my faith and relationship with God, to personal stories, my journey from depression, and my journey to health and fitness after 2 major weight loss cycles and I have connected with people — online and offline — on some of these issues. However, the two main topics that have brought the most questions and comments from people and have served as the basis of some of the relationships I now have are overcoming depression and losing weight. For this reason, I am going to be doing two series on both topics about…


Dr. Mensa Otabil — Ghanian Theologian and Entrepreneur

I attended the West African Faith Believers Convention WAFBEC in January 2020, and Mensah Otabil’s sermon titled “Do you understand what you are reading” completely blew my mind and I posted on IG that he completely shattered and obliterated WAFBEC 2020. …


I was either listening to a sermon or reading a book recently but I don’t quite remember when I had to read Genesis 1:1 and I saw it in a whole new light that I had never seen it in before. It adequately described what being depressed looked like for me in a way that nothing else has. Genesis 1:1 says “God created the heavens and the earth. The earth was formless and void or a waste and emptiness and darkness was upon the face of the deep.” These terms “waste”, “emptiness”, and “darkness” Aptly describe my Depression.

Waste is…


This is the first part of a 2-part article (as I am trying to keep my posts less than 10 mins to read).

Prior to August 2019 when I started to successfully lose weight the first time, I had attempted to lose weight several times and failed woefully. I do not remember the timelines for these other instances but I know some happened before I got well in December 2018, while some happened afterward. What I do know is that I felt shamed by even my loved ones (LO) for being fat. I know it came from a place of…


The tips in this post are for anyone who has ideas worth sharing and wants to write but doesn’t feel confident enough to do so.

Recently, a friend of mine sent me an article about a conversation she had with God. She wrote to God and God wrote back to her. I thought it was a very beautiful and meaningful piece and said as much to her. She appreciated the compliment and said I could share but share anonymously. She went on to say that she has a lot to write but doesn’t feel confident enough to write them. I…

Firecracker Toyeen

I am Firecracker Toyeen and I am a believer. I love to tell stories with important messages. My Blog: firecracker-toyeen.com. Instagram &FB: @firecracker_toyeen

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