Dear Single Lady,

Welcome to 2021. With the covid-19 pandemic that shook the whole world and claimed many lives in 2020, it is such a privilege to be alive to see 2021. 2020 showed us that death is not a respecter of gender, marital status, age, socio-economic status, or religion. We’ve seen how fleeting life can be so it’s imperative, now more than ever, that you live NOW and not postpone living until after you fulfill your desire to be married. Time and tide wait for no man and you can’t continue to postpone those dreams of yours until after…


Me on vacation in Accra Ghana at my heaviest — 92 kg

‘Destination addiction’ is used to describe the belief that happiness is in the destination or can be found somewhere else rather than in the present. (source: here)

I attended ISL in the first term of junior high school but I didn’t particularly have a great time there. I had very few friends, wasn’t very social or involved in extracurricular activities, and my time there was far from memorable. When my dad came home one day and said I was transferring to F.G.G.C Shagamu in the second term, I was excited. In my mind, ISL was a better school than Shagamu…


I have shared details about my life from my faith and relationship with God, to personal stories, my journey from depression, and my journey to health and fitness after 2 major weight loss cycles and I have connected with people — online and offline — on some of these issues. However, the two main topics that have brought the most questions and comments from people and have served as the basis of some of the relationships I now have are overcoming depression and losing weight. For this reason, I am going to be doing two series on both topics about…


Dr. Mensa Otabil — Ghanian Theologian and Entrepreneur

I attended the West African Faith Believers Convention WAFBEC in January 2020, and Mensah Otabil’s sermon titled “Do you understand what you are reading” completely blew my mind and I posted on IG that he completely shattered and obliterated WAFBEC 2020. …


I was either listening to a sermon or reading a book recently but I don’t quite remember when I had to read Genesis 1:1 and I saw it in a whole new light that I had never seen it in before. It adequately described what being depressed looked like for me in a way that nothing else has. Genesis 1:1 says “God created the heavens and the earth. The earth was formless and void or a waste and emptiness and darkness was upon the face of the deep.” These terms “waste”, “emptiness”, and “darkness” Aptly describe my Depression.

Waste is…


This is the first part of a 2-part article (as I am trying to keep my posts less than 10 mins to read).

Prior to August 2019 when I started to successfully lose weight the first time, I had attempted to lose weight several times and failed woefully. I do not remember the timelines for these other instances but I know some happened before I got well in December 2018, while some happened afterward. What I do know is that I felt shamed by even my loved ones (LO) for being fat. I know it came from a place of…


The tips in this post are for anyone who has ideas worth sharing and wants to write but doesn’t feel confident enough to do so.

Recently, a friend of mine sent me an article about a conversation she had with God. She wrote to God and God wrote back to her. I thought it was a very beautiful and meaningful piece and said as much to her. She appreciated the compliment and said I could share but share anonymously. She went on to say that she has a lot to write but doesn’t feel confident enough to write them. I…


My Before and After Picture. The picture on the left was taken on Sep 5, 2020 when I weighed 87.9 kg while the picture on the right was taken on Dec 19, 2020 when I weighed 72.9 kg.

You asked and I listened. Only my Friend Effanga would get this joke.

Sometime last year, either in August or September, I went to my cousin’s pharmacy to check my Body Mass Index (BMI). Before that day, my mum had sent me an article that said overweight women tend to have difficulty birthing children and my doctor friend confirmed it was true. At the pharmacy, my BMI was shown to be 35.2 — a class 2 (moderate-risk) obesity range. An ideal BMI for most healthy adults is in the 18 to 24.9 range (source: NHS.uk here). When I got home…


So some believers have not been following the covid-19 restriction protocols by wearing masks and practicing social distancing in the name of “I am a child of God so Covid-19 cannot harm me” and similar sentiments. I am also a believer who caught covid-19 at a Christian conference I attended last year along with two other believers who also attended the conference. Covid guidelines of wearing masks and staying 2–3 m away from people were not adhered to by many people at the entrance of the venue while we waited to enter the hall. …


What is your identity? Your identity is who you are or the characteristics that determine what you are.

To know your identity, you should ask yourself these questions?

How do I define myself?

What do I tie my identity to?

What happens when I lose those things.

People define themselves by several factors and attach their identity to those factors. For some people, their identity lies in their accomplishments. Oftentimes, when you go for job interviews and you’re asked the famous “tell me about yourself” question you are expected to talk about your educational qualifications, experiences, and past accomplishments in…

Firecracker Toyeen

I am Firecracker Toyeen and I am a believer. I love to tell stories with important messages. My Blog: firecracker-toyeen.com. Instagram &FB: @firecracker_toyeen

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