Why Do You Want To Get Married?

A secondary school classmate of mine got married last week and I was chatting with a friend of mine who also attended shagamu the day after the wedding when she mentioned that it seems like it’s only the two both of us that are still single. About 6 of my ex-shagamu classmates have gotten married this year so, despite the pandemic, 2020 was still some people’s year to marry. Anyway, I told her that I am the only single person I know and I don’t believe anyone else is single with me so if even either of my sisters presents me with wedding invitations tomorrow, I wouldn’t even be shocked. Experience has taught me that the people you are shouting “God when” with are not always in the same single to stupor state as you. Anyway, she mentioned that she is just tired of being single and her prayer to God is that whatever is keeping her from getting married on her part (you know how you sometimes hear that the reason God hasn’t blessed you with something you’ve been praying for is that you haven’t learned what you need to learn?), God should just reveal it to her.

We talked more and the following day, I started to think about this whole marriage issue. I definitely want to get married and birth mini-firecrackers but I sometimes feel like, at 34, I don’t have the same sense of urgency to marry as some of my mates have. So I asked this friend of mine to send me a very long Voice note about the…